Friday, April 20, 2012
Pick your Passion or Do it All?
I've been thinking a lot about my last post (before the Clean House Challenge post)and I'm no closer to deciding.
I chatted with another friend of mine yesterday. She's basically in the same boat, just without a kid. She gave up a craft or two when she & her hubby moved, but she still has more than she has time or space for. She had a similar problem with employment. A lot of the jobs she sought required years of experience in that particular field. She (& I!) have years of experience in various fields.
That also got me thinking about working & staying home & then I saw this article. I've had a lot of people say things like "good for you!" when I say I'm a stay-at-home mom. I love being with my daughter & would have a hard time going back to work now, but I didn't become a SAHM entirely by choice. I had a job I loved in disability support at the local community college & I went back to work after I had her. I had lost my stride in the workplace though & was struggling to catch up with things, but my main concern was that we weren't breaking even with the costs of childcare. It seemed like I should be. I earned $11 an hour & childcare costs came out to roughly $5 an hour. The main problem was that the daycare charged per week regardless of how many days the kids were actually there & the occasional sick day would cost me doubly as I was paying for daycare I wasn't getting & I wasn't earning anything from work. I was still considered a temp worker & had no paid leave of any sort (so my maternity leave had already cost us on top of hospital bills & all.) Then, what totally sunk us... due to the economy & what-not... we had budget cuts... My hours were going to be cut in half. My boss knew what that meant. I was done. So, we chose to have me just stay home, rather than try to find a higher paying job somewhere else. It just wasn't likely at all.
I thought I'd have so much time to keep the house cleaned up & do my crafts & hobbies... ha!
I've since looked around & learned that most other SAHMs aren't much better than I am at keeping up with everything & having time to themselves. My neighbors are better at keeping their houses cleaned up, but they don't seem to get as caught up in hobbies & computer time as I do. I've started wondering how the heck I (or anyone else) managed any semblance of cleanliness & have time for hobbies while working. The only benefit is that the house wasn't getting messed up (any more than the cats could manage)while we were at work.
I don't know. I know I definitely need to get off my butt more & get better at cleaning up, but as for the rest of the balancing act... *shrug*
So, what do you think? Do you think it's better to pick a passion or try & do all that brings you joy? Prioritize & organize or go with the flow?
I tend to not like extremes & look for the happy middle ground, but I think I'm leading my life more in the try to do it all and go with the flow style & it's not working for me.